Getting our elderly kin on board with home care can be tough. It’s probably as tough as getting a lazy kid out of bed for school, and that situation is putting it lightly. Independence is a critical concept in senior citizens’ lives, and family members need to understand how their elderly kin sees it. That way, the challenges each relative faces daily can be eased.
When it Becomes the Other Way Around
Aging brings about a world of changes to anyone’s life. Most of those are physical in nature. It can be tough for senior citizens to accept the fact that they aren’t as sprightly as they were before. This is where home care services come in handy to help keep them safe as they live out their years. But then, there may come a time when seniors would downright refuse the idea of having help around the home. It’s like the old situation between parents and children, but reversed. The former used to tell their kids to listen to them all the time (and would get upset if the kids wouldn’t). Now, it’s the other way around.
Is it a Question of Pride?
A study from Penn State found that 77 percent of adult children think that their parents are stubborn. It can be about taking advice or getting help with daily problems, and everything else in between. Still, the question is, “Why?” clinical psychologist Edward Dreyfus provides an explanation. To several seniors, declining physical adeptness symbolizes more than just aging. To them, it means they’re getting closer to their twilight years. They also believe that if they choose to resist acknowledging their physical decline, they put their imminent demise on hold.
Other Possible Underlying Factors
Geriatric care specialist Suzanne Modigliani stresses the importance of determining which other things might be causing the stubbornness. Is everything being done out of habit, to assert independence, or depression/confusion? The latter is one of the most potent causes of detrimental behavior. In seniors, extreme sadness can be due to feelings of loneliness. When family members move out, the previously existing support circle is no more. Elderly people have spent their lives looking after both themselves and others, and in old age, they’ll still look to rekindle those times. People seeking to help are sometimes turned away because of the latter reason.
History Repeats Itself
The old adage above sums up the situation perfectly. When the elderly begins to show stubbornness, their children must understand that it used to be that way between them and their parents. What matters most is that everyone should talk about issues hand in hand, and treat each other with love and respect.